Stop freaking out about your wife’s investments in her personal growth and business

Some considerations to make when your wife approaches you about investing in herself.

I know you think you are keeping her safe, saving her from “scams”, “pyramid schemes” and “rip-off coaches”. It is your job to keep her safe, right?

My husband gave me some true raised eyebrows after I hired my first private coach. I don’t even think I told him exactly how much I was paying for it until I was a few months in…and he was flabbergasted.

I used the rest of my existing credit card limit (other 4 cards were maxxed out) for the first payment, and honestly had no idea how I was going to make the rest. I was on an extended payment plan for around $790/month for the 1–1 coaching.

I generated enough to cover the coaching and other business expenses in my first 6 months of business as a health coach, and my husband never had to dip into his pockets to help me (although I know he, slightly begrudgingly, would have).

I know there’s no way in the world that I would have built a successful business right off the bat without that coach, I am forever grateful for her and the structure and support she gave me. I am also so grateful for my husband for always just…trusting me.

If your wife is being called to invest in herself, support her in coming to a clear decision and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆.

Even if you’ve seen her invest in herself multiple times and haven’t (yet) seen any financial return to speak of. Even if you’ve helped her pay off past investments.

Look for her other transformations.

Notice how she shows up differently in the world because of her past investments. Note her growth, 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘁.

Stop pressing her about whether she’s made back her investments yet, that will only prolong the process.

If you opened a restaurant last month, do you think she’d be expecting you to bring home your ROI yet??

Don’t trust the business model? Just trust her, she’s done hours and hours more research than you have on the subject. Or, sit through those hours of research with her and approach her with educated questions.

Has she “already done this before and nothing came of it?”

So what? Successful business owners and entrepreneurs were never successful on their first businesses. She just hasn’t found the right vehicle yet, give her space.

Investing money into ours growth, our businesses, our passions, is one of the most nourishing thing we can do for ourselves.

𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗮𝗹𝘆𝘀𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝘁𝗵.

These investments compound, and you may have to zoom out a few years to see the return.

But you know when you’ll never see her be successful?

If you keep beating her down about how much she can spend on her dreams. That’s when she’ll just keep shrinking right on in — or away from you.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗮𝗻 𝗲𝘆𝗲 𝗶𝗳 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 $𝟭𝟬𝟬𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗲𝗯𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿𝘀.

So if she invests $10k to create an online business. Heck if she invests $50k or $100k to create her own business.

Lighten up, stop tying down her wings and instead be her safe landing pad.

It won’t be an easy path, but if it’s what she chooses for herself, you will get to witness her transformation.

And most likely your future finances will improve as well.